Why after a relationship ends, the game ends, it ends up becoming a human being fully convalescent, whiny and obsessive?
already are several cases of friends, acquaintances, and many stories of friends of my friends who have sent me some conclusions and more than that, being intense reflections of my mind, and also in many minds that I have unwittingly helped.
have to analyze is how we behave when a relationship ends. I will describe some situations that have become a generalization, even to have a scientific basis behavior.
First, why a relationship ends?, These are some of the conclusions which I shall discuss it in order prelate.
• The love is gone, but love, passion "adolescent" we have when we cegadamente love.
• Another person we love, we are concerned, we see him or her attitudes that make the difference with a partner.
· Simply because the relationship reached a point at which there is respect, and dreams as a whole and are not the same, which means that we set aside as a project, our partner because we do not see in our plans , probably because the misdirected ambitions, made any attempt to turn away from eternal union and sincere.
exposed Whatever the cause, the person who is "finished", have the following behaviors:
· We feel handicapped, like the other person is always at his side, wants to keep almost maternal bond is that saying, "Hey, but we still friends, no! "eye, that exclamation point is the notorious sense of the phrase, has no question mark, the person required to remain friends, and if the other person does not give the" wish ", he feels that life is over, that nothing makes sense.
· It becomes obsessive, do not understand, and moreover, can not accept that the relationship has ended so well and does not admit, or rather not see, he has been implications of many special events. Call, browse, invented a way to still have some contacts, manages, cheat, and even in some cases killed, because it admits that that person finished. These
are some to name, I can say, and be very sure that only two behaviors that govern the person is finished. Add missing because, elements, such as sadness, anxiety, fear, but all these are within the top two.
It's amazing how the human being comes to a total state of stupidity, do not have the slightest respect for yourself, any fact that you think or believe you can make the other person to return to his side he will, by more than the other person has been candid in expressing that no longer want to return to it, no longer feels the same, never to return, even to know and are aware of the abuse they are exposed, but not interested, want to feel humiliated, demeaned victims for someone to come to their aid.
I find this absurd, but understandable when you're blinded by love, in one of my articles I talked about the freedom that we have to love, all this thinking I did after reading Eric Frohm, in his book the art of love, I confess that implement it cost me much later.
When I hear of these cases, if stated as follows:
• That is normal behavior, that's a trance, a reactionary process and almost necessary to realize such a bad way to love, which form that love is wrong, some learning, some even now are still falling for this bad way to love without freedom, I think at this stage of the 21st century with advanced miserably psychology would be absurd and idiotic does not go to a psychologist and start a serious treatment, which comes first to begin to accept that we are sick and need to heal our mind, and soothe our souls.
• That two people should stop seeing for a while, until the wounds heal. The weather may sometimes be the best kit for emergencies.
• After so much time together, almost emotionally dependent, it is time to start relying only one. The formula is, start out at social gatherings, where opportunities abound to remember less.
These are the things that so far have been issued. Missing analyze the behavior of the person who "finished" but it is almost obvious, is completely antagonistic to the other paper.
With all this mean that the writer is not exempt from that described and explained, because at some point in their lives also happened.
would end up concluding this article the way, as sometimes the books' moral lifters "would like to finish, at times, sometimes you want to lose this writing, but is carefully reviewed to avoid falling into such pamphleteering.
